#JournalChat Live 10/20/13 Part II Your Journaling: What Are You Talking About?

DawnHerring2:47pm via HootSuite

RT @becomewhour: #Journaling can help us adjust our sense of normality towards a healthier way of conflict resolution#journalchat

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@dredrelew Especially when the topic/persona is a raw subject for us; we need to get down to the root of it with our journals.#JournalChat

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becomewhour2:46pm via Web

@madeline40 @JournalChat I've found that if s/o gossips about others, they'll probably gossip about us at some point too!#journalchat

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dredrelew2:46pm via Web

@JournalChat @becomewhour I used to, but as I evolved, I no longer hang out with folks who are prone to gossip #journalchat

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madeline402:46pm via Web

@DawnHerring @becomewhour This has been a great chat, and I need to leave. It looks like the Sunday switch went very well Dawn. #journalchat

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RT @becomewhour #Journaling can help us adjust our sense of normality towards a healthier way of conflict resolution#journalchat

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@madeline40 Sometimes someone may say, we were just talking about you...or you can sense tension. #JournalChat

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becomewhour2:45pm via Web

@cherapple @JournalChat #Journaling can help us adjust our sense of normality towards a healthier way of conflict resolution#journalchat

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dredrelew2:45pm via Web

@becomewhour @cherapple @JournalChat this can be challenging to not get drawn into gossip #journalchat

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#Journaling can help us recognize when gossip is our normal way of dealing with social situations instead of being authentic.#JournalChat

DawnHerring2:45pm via HootSuite

#Journaling can help us recognize when gossip is our normal way of dealing with social situations instead of being authentic.#JournalChat

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@becomewhour Do we hang out with folks who are prone to gossip? Good discerning factor of who your friends are!#JournalChat

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DawnHerring2:44pm via HootSuite

@becomewhour Do we hang out with folks who are prone to gossip? Good discerning factor of who your friends are!#JournalChat

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madeline402:44pm via Web

@JournalChat @becomewhour But how would we know they do? Or am I being naive? #journalchat

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JournalChat2:44pm via HootSuite

RT @becomewhour: & what were your relationship templates around gossip? If we're brought up around it, it becomes normal#journalchat

DawnHerring2:44pm via HootSuite

RT @becomewhour: & what were your relationship templates around gossip? If we're brought up around it, it becomes normal#journalchat

cherapple2:43pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @JournalChat It can become the "normal" way of dealing with conflict. We don't learn how to face it directly.#journalchat

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becomewhour2:43pm via Web

@cherapple @JournalChat Ditto Cheryl, I feel the discomfort very physically but it's still hard not to get drawn in sometimes#journalchat

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@cherapple You can feel the negative energy; it can either pull or repel...#JournalChat

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dredrelew2:43pm via Web

@WritingReader Byron Katie teaches that we can question our thoughts, our beliefs, our fears, our judgements, perspective.#journalchat

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@becomewhour Indeed! How about when others talk about us? That's the flip side. #JournalChat

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becomewhour2:42pm via Web

@cherapple @JournalChat & what were your relationship templates around gossip? If we're brought up around it, it becomes normal #journalchat

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Brainmaker2:37pm via Echofon

People, #journalchat is now on Sunday 1 pm PST. Juicy chat today! #writechat #storycraft See you there?

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RT @cherapple: @becomewhour @JournalChat Ask yourself what is your history with #gossip and how has it affected you?#journalchat

DawnHerring2:42pm via HootSuite

RT @cherapple: @becomewhour @JournalChat Ask yourself what is your history with #gossip and how has it affected you?#journalchat

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@WritingReader Good training! #JournalChat

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cherapple2:42pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @JournalChat I have an almost visceral reaction when I hear people gossiping, not that I never succumb. #journalchat #gossip

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JournalChat2:41pm via HootSuite

@Brainmaker Oh, yes, Suzanna; happy birthday!! #JournalChat

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becomewhour2:41pm via Web

@JournalChat @dredrelew @Brainmaker Yes! So true. If we gossip, we send a message to others that we're to be gossiped about #journalchat

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JournalChat2:40pm via HootSuite

RT @WritingReader: When you use it, you learn that everything you say about the other person is really true about you.#journalchat

DawnHerring2:40pm via HootSuite

RT @WritingReader: When you use it, you learn that everything you say about the other person is really true about you.#journalchat

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@WritingReader Oh, yes, gossip is a reflection of ourselves; what do we need to learn about us today? #JournalChat

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becomewhour2:40pm via Web

@JournalChat Definitely! And it's the most important relationship of our lives. We're our only constant companions.#journalchat

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Brainmaker2:40pm via Echofon

@JournalChat you bet. See you soon #journalchat

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cherapple2:40pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @JournalChat Ask yourself what is your history with #gossip and how has it affected you? #journalchat

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@Brainmaker Thanks for spreading the word, Suzanna!#JournalChat

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WritingReader2:40pm via TweetChat powered by oneQube

@dredrelew If you make this a practice, it almost happens in your head without you realizing it. Stops you fast. #journalchat

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@cherapple A trusted friend who understand you well.#JournalChat

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WritingReader2:39pm via TweetChat powered by oneQube

qub.me/foabUW Loving What Is #journalchat

dredrelew2:39pm via Web

@WritingReader I totally agree! But this takes awareness in to catch ourselves tempted to gossip. #journalchat

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RT @Brainmaker: People, #journalchat is now on Sunday 1 pm PST. Juicy chat today! #writechat #storycraft See you there?

becomewhour2:39pm via Web

@cherapple @JournalChat Yes, there's a difference between sharing to process and sharing to gossip. For me, it's in the motive #journalchat

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Brainmaker2:39pm via Echofon

@cherapple @JournalChat thanks! Beautiful October day. Maybe walk first, then head in for writing sprint. Cheers!#journalchat

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@Brainmaker Thanks for joining us, Suzanna. It was fab. :)#JournalChat

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WritingReader2:39pm via TweetChat powered by oneQube

If you've never read it, get Loving What Is by Byron Katie. Fabulous! #journalchat

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RT @cherapple: It's okay not to love everyone, but I'd prefer to examine why not with myself before others. #journalchat#gossip

DawnHerring2:39pm via HootSuite

RT @cherapple: It's okay not to love everyone, but I'd prefer to examine why not with myself before others. #journalchat#gossip

becomewhour2:39pm via Web

@JournalChat Love that analogy! The only way to raise ourselves is through good deeds based on the kind of person we want to be #journalchat

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Brainmaker2:37pm via Echofon

People, #journalchat is now on Sunday 1 pm PST. Juicy chat today! #writechat #storycraft See you there?

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cherapple2:38pm via TweetDeck

@Brainmaker @JournalChat Happy birthday! What a great gift to yourself. #journalchat

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@dredrelew Good one, Andrea; and it's true! #JournalChat

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RT @dredrelew: @becomewhour @Brainmaker we teach people how we want to be treated #journalchat

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@becomewhour @dredrelew Best rule ever, huh? It works.#journalchat

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dredrelew2:38pm via Web

@JournalChat @Brainmaker love this! a good reminder not to take ourselves so seriously. #journalchat

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@becomewhour We certainly don't want to damage our relationship with ourselves; that needs serious nurture!#JournalChat

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WritingReader2:37pm via TweetChat powered by oneQube

When you use it, you learn that everything you say about the other person is really true about you. #journalchat

Brainmaker2:37pm via Echofon

People, #journalchat is now on Sunday 1 pm PST. Juicy chat today! #writechat #storycraft See you there?

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cherapple2:37pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @JournalChat I have kept things in that I needed to talk about. A good friend to talk to does help.#journalchat #gossip

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JournalChat2:37pm via HootSuite

@WritingReader Thanks for the link, Liz! #JournalChat

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@WritingReader Do you have a link for that, Liz? #JournalChat

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dredrelew2:36pm via Web

@cherapple @becomewhour @Brainmaker I agree Cheryl, everything starts with self #journalchat

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Brainmaker2:36pm via Echofon

@JournalChat great day for the chat. Started a new journal for my birthday today. Time to get back to my writing marathon!#journalchat

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JournalChat2:36pm via HootSuite

@becomewhour Exactly, Hannah. We try to prop ourselves up but our pedestal is made of sand. Sinking sand. #JournalChat

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RT @Brainmaker: I let it rip in my journal, it turns ludicrous right away and I end up laughing at myself. Ruefully. #journalchat

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cherapple2:35pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @Brainmaker It's okay not to love everyone, but I'd prefer to examine why not with myself before others.#journalchat #gossip

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JournalChat2:35pm via HootSuite

@becomewhour Gossip does harm deeply that we may not realize. So glad #Journaling can help us diffuse our urges!#JournalChat

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becomewhour2:35pm via Web

@dredrelew @Brainmaker Yes: treat others the way we'd like to be treated #journalchat

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dredrelew2:35pm via Web

@becomewhour @Brainmaker we teach people how we want to be treated #journalchat

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JournalChat2:34pm via HootSuite

RT @becomewhour: Maybe not consciously, but those actions get recorded unconsciously and affect the way we feel about ourselves #journalchat

DawnHerring2:34pm via HootSuite

RT @becomewhour: Maybe not consciously, but those actions get recorded unconsciously and affect the way we feel about ourselves #journalchat

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Suzanna pointed out What do we need right now is a good question to ask when we are tempted to gossip. #JournalChat#Journaling

DawnHerring2:34pm via HootSuite

Suzanna pointed out What do we need right now is a good question to ask when we are tempted to gossip. #JournalChat#Journaling

dredrelew2:34pm via Web

@becomewhour @Brainmaker I think if I don't want someone to gossip about me then why will I gossip about others?#journalchat

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Brainmaker2:34pm via Echofon

@becomewhour also, my antagonist is very gossip-inducing and feared. Perfect for processing compassion, to make her human. #journalchat

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becomewhour2:34pm via Web

@JournalChat ...Not an effective way! The relationship with ourselves is most important and when we gossip, we damage that too #journalchat

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@Brainmaker Oooh, I love that, Suzanna. Fear based; we're afraid of rejection and say things we shouldn't get attract attn?#JournalChat

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WritingReader2:33pm via TweetChat powered by oneQube

I use this a lot in journaling: thework.com/downloads/work…#journalchat

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A good template for dealing with gossip is the Judge Your Neighbor worksheet by Byron Katie. #journalchat

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RT @Brainmaker: I think it is always a projection, and fear based. Begs the question "what do I need right now?"#journalchat

becomewhour2:33pm via Web

@JournalChat Yes, when I have gossiped or heard people gossip, it's usually a way of levelling—trying to raise ourselves#journalchat

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@madeline40 Exactly, Madeline; #Journaling is perfect for that!#JournalChat

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becomewhour2:32pm via Web

@Brainmaker I love that approach! If you love people, you don't gossip—it's basic respect #journalchat

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Brainmaker2:32pm via Echofon

@becomewhour @JournalChat amen to that. That was my Wednesday. Bummer. #journalchat

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JournalChat2:32pm via HootSuite

@becomewhour Exactly! I say, no regrets! Just journal instead!#JournalChat

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Brainmaker2:31pm via Echofon

@cherapple @becomewhour I let it rip in my journal, it turns ludicrous right away and I end up laughing at myself. Ruefully.#journalchat

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JournalChat2:31pm via HootSuite

RT @cherapple: It can also help to get empathy from yourself, rather than seeking it from others. #journalchat #gossip

DawnHerring2:31pm via HootSuite

RT @cherapple: It can also help to get empathy from yourself, rather than seeking it from others. #journalchat #gossip

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@cherapple #Journaling helps us empathize with ourselves; loving ourselves from the inside out! #JournalChat

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madeline402:30pm via Web

@DawnHerring Like I said last week, #journaling kept me from complaining to our travel mates and made for a peaceful trip.#journalchat

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JournalChat2:30pm via HootSuite

@becomewhour No, it actually harms, both the person we speak of and ourselves! Gossip hurts everyone. #JournalChat

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becomewhour2:30pm via Web

@JournalChat Maybe not consciously, but those actions get recorded unconsciously and affect the way we feel about ourselves #journalchat

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@becomewhour Yes, it can; helps to learn about ourselves in the process! #JournalChat

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Brainmaker2:29pm via Echofon

@JournalChat @becomewhour I think it is always a projection, and fear based. Begs the question "what do I need right now?"#journalchat

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madeline402:29pm via Web

@cherapple @becomewhour @JournalChat And if not empathy, certainly better understanding of ourselves. #journalchat

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cherapple2:29pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @JournalChat Or trying to find comrades in pain, if we can find others who experienced a person the same way. #journalchat

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@cherapple Taking responsibility; that's a personally powerful place to be, no doubt! #JournalChat

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becomewhour2:29pm via Web

@JournalChat We might get a momentary satisfaction but we'll regret it later. #journalchat

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JournalChat2:28pm via HootSuite

When we're in a social situation where we feel insecure, we may be tempted to say something we shouldn't. #JournalChat#Journaling

DawnHerring2:28pm via HootSuite

When we're in a social situation where we feel insecure, we may be tempted to say something we shouldn't. #JournalChat#Journaling

cherapple2:28pm via TweetDeck

@becomewhour @JournalChat It can also help to get empathy from yourself, rather than seeking it from others. #journalchat#gossip

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@becomewhour Hannah, I noted your mention of insecurity concerning why we might gossip; good point! #JournalChat