Refresh with Dawn Herring: Part IV #JournalChat Live Facebook Group Discussion with Special Guest, Jill Winski. Topic: Your Journaling: The Meaning of Words

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One thing I like about writing a long list, like a list of 100, is that you get past the obvious material and into more surprising, perhaps subconscious material. For example, I did a list of things that were stressing me out, and I ended up finding out that what was REALLY stressing me out wasn't what I had at first thought it was. Go figure!

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Marianne Ingheim Rossi It does take a while, but it can be worth it!

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Luis A. Vargas Surprises at every corner when you dig deep into the abyss of the mind through written revelations!
Peaceful self indeed!

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Dawn Herring Indeed, Luis. Thanks for your insight.

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I love what Jill says in her post about choosing our words intentionally because Words Have Power.

Yes, they do! What we think, what we write and what we say.

The Love and Hate words list can reveal to us what words we do NOT and words we DO want to use. It can make a difference in our thought processes and in our imaginations!

Who would have thought how powerful journaling can be as a life tool!

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- Dawn Herring Written affirmations can activate some powerful affirming energy just from the pen and into our hearts!
  
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- Marianne Ingheim Rossi Great reminders, you guys! I haven't done affirmations in a long time. Maybe it's time to bring those back! Words can be powerful for sure. Words help us create our reality.
  
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- Dawn Herring OOH, well put, Marianne. Words have that kind of power= reality. Choosy is good!!
  
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  October 2 at 3:09pm
  
  Jill just mentioned that we have a tendency to stay stuck with our "stories" and that bringing attention to what isn't working can help us let go of them.
  
  Those Love and Hate lists can go a long way toward showing us what "story words" we may be using that aren't very helpful. Or even undermining.
  
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  Sue Ekins That's a great idea, Jill Winski. Sometimes it's easier to notice when someone ELSE is stuck with their stories than ourselves. This is a great tool.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher This can be so hard. Some of us don't want to admit we're stuck.
  
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  Jill Winski It's also worth pointing out that sometimes "I'm stuck" can be a story.
  
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  Dawn Herring Good point, Carrie. It IS hard work to get unstuck, but when we do it, wow, what a difference that can make in our life experience!
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher Even admitting that much can be almost TOO much for some to write, though. How can we show our loved ones that it is OK to be introspective and admit this to themselves?
  
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  Sue Ekins Ahh, you just spoke to me too, Jill Winski, when you pointed out that saying "I'm stuck" can be a story.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi That's a tough one, Carrie Aulenbacher Some people just aren't ready.
  
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  Jill Winski That's such a great question, Carrie. Maybe let them know that there are no "shoulds" to it all. Wherever they are is okay. Wherever they are really is perfect for them.
  
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  Dawn Herring Carrie, I encourage folks to journal many times; and often times, they do. But sometimes it's not their way of tuning in. And that's okay too.
  
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  Sue Ekins Carrie Aulenbacher, I don't think I can change my loved ones if they don't want to change. I have a family member who would never admit there's anything wrong with her life (despite so many problems), and I've learned I can't change her.
  
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  Sue Ekins I feel all we can do is to try to set a good example.
  
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  Dawn Herring All we can do is be an example which is a gargantuan task in itself; but being real and Who We Are is all We can do. Perhaps that helps.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher It hurts so much to watch years go by of loved ones being 'stuck'. You try year after year to show them support, take them to lunch, buy them their own journal, suggest, offer, go shopping with them, have them over to hang and watch a movie, anything to allow them to feel comfortable enough to try and look at their lives differently...and years go by and nothing changes. Meanwhile, I"m over here in my journal traveling light years ahead, evolving, working on myself, growing, etc, and they are more sad and upset and more stuck. I know that journaling is not for everyone and that where they are IS where they need to be at this stage of their journey, I just can't figure out why they have to be so 'stuck' for decades, obviously miserable...
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi I've been trying to explain to my dad why I journal and teach journaling, and he keeps thinking we journal because we're depressed and since he's obviously not depressed, journaling isn't for him. It's definitely a learning curve for him! But at least he's interested in what I'm doing:)
  
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  Dawn Herring I believe the desire to journal and to change has to come from within.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi I understand what you mean Carrie Aulenbacher. Totally! We can only change ourselves, not anyone else. Unfortunately!
  
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  Sue Ekins Carrie Aulenbacher, in the case of my loved one, she is comfortable being who she is. If that means she does little else than work and watch TV, it seems to be OK in her view. She doesn't want to go outside her comfort zone, which seems pretty limited.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi I agree, Dawn Herring
  
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  Jill Winski I really hear you, Carrie. When I feel pain over wanting others to change, I ultimately turn it back around to myself and look at me -- where can I still do some changing;where might I be feeling stuck? The Work of Byron Katie is great for this.
  
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  Sue Ekins Marianne Ingheim Rossi I do think your Dad is right in that journaling can help us deal with depression. But I don't think that's all it does or that everyone who journals is depressed.
  
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  Sue Ekins It is frustrating that we can't change them, but the truth is, we can't.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher I journal a LOT about "How can people be so happy being so miserable". all they do is complain - and thrive on complaining.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi It's hard when we have something that deepens our lives and we see loved ones who don't get it. We want to share it. Which is why it's great to meet like this! We're our own little tribe:)
  
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  Jill Winski I had to chuckle a little about what you said about your dad,Marianne, because I think my whole family believes I journal because I am depressed. It's quite funny, actually. Journaling has certainly helped me through times of depression, though.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher It also gives me a LOT to use when looking in the mirror! I have cut out a lot of habits by looking at others complaining and comparing it to my own behavior.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi I agree, Sue Ekins. Journaling can definitely help you through depression. But my dad seems to think that you only journal because you're depressed. That it's almost a symptom of depression!
  
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  Jill Winski Maybe that's their gift to you, Carrie -- to show you what you want to let go of in your life.
  
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  Dawn Herring Yes, we can all learn a lot from those who we encounter who are stuck and unhappy, and what Jill said is so true; we can change ourselves when we are stuck; we can be the change agents in our world through journaling and living. That really can make a difference!
  
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  Sue Ekins Jill Winski, I like your thought about looking at ourselves when something about someone else is bothering us. And that's a good thing to journal about. "Why am I reacting in such a strong way to my loved one's behavior?"
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi Yes, we can learn a lot from others and our projections.
  
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  Jill Winski Yes, Sue, I often go to my journal when someone's behavior is bothering me and inquire about it in some way, investigate a little. And sometimes I do need someone else to help me, if I'm really caught.
  
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  I think it's important that when we find a list that works for us that we use it repeatedly, maybe a few times per week or month so we can keep our finger on the pulse of our journaling and life hearts and see what is changing and what is repeatedly resonating.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher I find that I use the word 'hope' consciously or subconsciously in just about every email I write.
  
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  Dawn Herring Hope is a powerful word, Carrie. It can be what keeps us going from day to day especially when we are being challenged by life circumstances.
  
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  Jill Winski Yes, I notice if I'm getting out of touch with "why" I'm doing what I'm doing -- coaching, writing, whatever it may be -- going back to my "love" list points me back to who I am. And "hope" IS a wonderful word!
  
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  Dawn Herring Yes, Our Love list can certainly be a touchstone when we get a little lost., Jill.
  
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  Sue Ekins Love the word "hope" also. One of my favorite poems, by Emily Dickinson, is the one that begins. "“Hope” is the thing with feathers -
  That perches in the soul . . . " Wow.
  
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  Jill Winski I love Emily Dickinson.
  
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  Sue Ekins Jill Winski - yes - She is certainly someone who knew how to use words! Not powerful in her everyday, quiet life but REALLY powerful with her words.
  
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  Jill Winski I've always found her fascinating, Sue.
  
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  In line is a phrase Jill uses in her post with those heavy words she didn't like in her list. I think IN LINE is alignment with who we are. We can recognize those words so readily and maybe we'll be surprised with what shows up in there!
  
  I love the element of surprise in journaling.
  
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  October 2 at 3:24pm
  
  One point being made by Carrie is the frustration we can feel when those we care about don't get the benefits of keeping a journal to help them get "unstuck."
  
  I know the desire to journal comes from within, although it's great to have supportive folks in our lives that encourage us to go for it and keep up the practice because it really does work.
  
  We must remember that journaling, in essence, is a powerful tool, both written and visual, and can reveal things to us that can be, let's say, challenging.
  
  Journaling may not be for everyone; we all have our own path to trod.
  
  I'm just delighted to have you all to join me on this journey!
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher The fact that I become easily frustrated with those who don't see things the way I do speaks to me and it is something else I write about to myself. I work on letting go and accepting people being different in how they deal with their own life challenges and struggles. It is a constant challenge. I don't outright get in their face about trying to tell them what they 'should' or 'should not' do. I sometimes don't even let on that they are frustrating me. But I am sure to vent endlessly to myself in my journal to work on this part of myself.
  
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  Sue Ekins Beautifully said, Dawn Herring!
  
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  Dawn Herring Thanks for being so honest about your struggle, Carrie. What you have shared is valuable.
  
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  Dawn Herring Glad you liked, Sue.
  
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  Jill Winski Dawn, well said -- and Carrie, I think you've just described the real work for all of us in our time here on this planet! I struggle with the same.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher Is it easy to just inhale a bag of Doritos for dinner while watching Miley Cyrus on Entertainment Tonight and then pass out on the couch? Yes. That's infinitely easier than what I'm struggling to learn about myself and my world. But what kind of existence is that? And if some feel that their existence would be 'too painful' by opening up their own hearts and minds, then I just don't know how to handle/approach/understand that.
  
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  Sue Ekins Carrie Aulenbacher, I face that struggle all the time too. I wonder if I do like you do, and "vent endlessly in my journal" about this individual, if maybe I'd be more patient with her in real life!
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher My life is NOT easy. But I only have so much time on this beautiful Earth with those I love. I DO NOT want to waste that time living unconsciously. I pray constantly for all my loved ones to enjoy a conscious full life, however it might happen for them.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi I totally get you, Carrie Aulenbacher. One thing I struggle with is not to feel superior to the people who maybe don't live as consciously as I strive to do. Because we're all just people, trying to do the best we can.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher YES, Marianne Ingheim Rossi! And, the harder I try to be transparent and vulnerable, the more it seems others feel I'm just throwing off a superior attitude. And although I would swear on a Bible right now that I am NOT acting that way (I make my hub...See More
  
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  Okay, another great word Jill uses in her post for words you don't like: Disconnected.
  
  Connection is a vital element of us as people; we need to be connected with others who we love and care about.
  
  Being aware of what words and life experiences make us feel disconnected can be a powerful source for positive change!
  
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  Jill Winski This is one I've been thinking about a lot lately. Especially since I think many of us feel "overconnected" with so much technology. I've been thinking about what connection truly means for me, and what are the situations or thoughts that cause me to feel disconnected?
  
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  Dawn Herring That's a great point, Jill. There is such a thing as being too connected, like with our internet use, etc. It's important to know what is truly connection and what is valuable to us.
  
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  Sue Ekins Good points. I overconnect with technology sometimes. Sometimes we're connecting with virtual strangers more than we do with our own families.
  
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  Jill Winski This week, my sister's 17-year-old cat passed away, and it felt really good to be with her in person to support her. That felt like real connection. And I definitely put down the technology during that experience. It felt very real.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher I don't feel technology overconnects me. I feel it is less of a connection because the face-to-face human interaction is not there.
  
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  Dawn Herring I know what you mean, Carrie. I think over connection in that sense, with technology, is spending too much time on something that isn't really beneficial.
  
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  Jill Winski I agree, Carrie. "Overconnected" is the wrong term; it's more like "overwhelmed," "oversaturated". And maybe "underconnected."
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher Yes, I am making more of an effort this summer to make phone calls and lunch dates, less emails.
  
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  Dawn Herring You are a very mindful person, Carrie.
  
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  When we get frustrated by another's behavior, especially when we can see ways when someone is "stuck," it may actually be a reflection of where WE are stuck. That's is certainly food for thought in our journals!
  
  It takes courage to say and write why we respond strongly to what another is struggling with. It takes courage to recognize similar struggles in our own lives.
  
  When we do the work and make those changes, it effects so much more than just our own lives. We make the World a better place!
  
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  Sue Ekins Dawn Herring, once again, you've articulated the issues clearly. I love the conclusion you reach that through our journaling and "doing the work", we make the world a better place. That is SO true.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher At least nobody here is telling me to 'let it go' or to 'get over it' or to 'quit talking to them'. SO MANY tell me to find better circles to be a part of and I don't feel that is right. Just because these loved ones and situations can be stressful and frustrating at times doesn't mean I want to give up on anyone. Thank you for supporting me 'endlessly venting' in my journals!
  
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  Jill Winski Love how you said that, too, Dawn. The work really is to look at ourselves and get to know ourselves better.
  
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  Dawn Herring My journaling practice and other supporting activities give me clarity. Thanks for your kind word, Sue.
  
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  Jill Winski Carrie, I hear you and it sounds like your intuition is guiding you here. I believe our loved ones -- frustrating as they may be -- are teachers for us.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher I'm stuck on people who are stuck! ACK!! LOL
  
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  Dawn Herring Laugher is good like medicine, Carrie.
  
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  Jill Winski Carrie, your awareness of that means you're not stuck!
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi Love this discussion:)
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher Gosh, Jill Winski, I HOPE SO!!!!!
  
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  Luis A. Vargas Thoughts are revelations of self. They become realities through actions.
  Thoughts are energies running through the brain which become habits as they are practiced daily.
  Therefore, journaling our thoughts gives us a mirror through which we can see a...See More
  
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  Dawn Herring Very well said, Luis. I love the "mirror" word use; our journals truly do reflect what is in the heart!
  
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  October 2 at 3:43pm
  
  I think it's important for us to use our journals to enliven and lift up our energy. This can enable us to stay aligned with Who We Are and be True to ourselves. Then we can be an example of being authentic and move forward in our destined path.
  
  Perhaps we can inspire others to do the same in a way that is authentic to them.
  
  As we Honor Who We Are, we can Honor Who Others Are as well.
  
  It's really mutual respect; and that's important in any relationship.
  
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  October 2 at 3:50pm
  
  Another great word from Jill's post: Elevate. This is on the Love list side. I love this word! It reminds me of Lighten. It does the same thing. It's the opposite of depress. Hmmm. Love the distinction.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi Lighten versus depress...
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher Elevate makes me want to sit up straighter, even!
  
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  Jill Winski True, Dawn. I didn't think of that.
  
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  Sue Ekins Elevate brings us to a new level.
  
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  Dawn Herring I am continually amazed by the power of words and how each of us responds to them. I agree, Sue, It takes us up from where we were, in our hearts and minds.
  
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  Dawn Herring Where the eagles fly...lyric that comes to mind! I love how words bring music to me...and so readily.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher YES Sue Ekins! I am constantly hungry to push and climb and see what else I can accomplish in a day.
  
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  Dawn Herring When I think of elevate, it feels more like being at peace, at ease, almost like a letting go of sorts. If I hang on too tightly, whatever it is keeps me grounded, but too much so. Does that make sense?
  
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  Jill Winski That does make sense, Dawn. And I'm always interested in the tension between feeling grounded (which is good to a degree) and the sense of elevate that you describe. I think you nail it when you say "hanging on too tightly" -- yes, that creates groundedness in the negative sense for me, for sure.
  
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  Marianne Ingheim Rossi I have to go, but thanks for the great discussion! I feel lifted up, elevated:)
  
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  Jill Winski Great to have you here, Marianne!
  
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  Sue Ekins I actually need to go too. I much enjoyed our conversation.
  
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  Jill Winski So glad you could be here, Sue!
  
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  Sue Ekins Thanks, Jill Winski. I enjoyed your post and it started a great conversation.
  
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  Dawn Herring It's been great having you, Marianne and Sue. Great conversation!
  
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  October 2 at 4:16pm
  
  Just an FYI...folks are welcome to leave comments with our discussion, Your Journaling: The Meaning of Words.
  
  I'm logging off for the evening.
  
  I do want to say a Special Thanks to Jill Winski for being Special Guest today for Part I of our Double Feature ‪#‎JournalChat‬ Live Event with her post, Knowing Yourself: What Words Inspire You? as our journaling resource.
  
  The conversation today has been insightful and delightful.
  
  Don't forget... you can join us on Twitter on Sunday at 3 CST as we continue our Double Feature #JournalChat Live Event with Jill.
  
  Have a good evening.
  
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  Dawn Herring Indeed! Thank you.
  
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  Carrie Aulenbacher Thank you, Jill Winski
  
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